Dorinda Gym

May you take no effort in your being generous
Sharing what you can, nothing more nothing less

You know the saying, "giving is better than receiving"? I know it's not a human nature to give instead of taking, but can you imagine a world or a society where everyone is thinking about 'take, take, take' and no one's giving back? I believe that what goes around comes around, if you make a positive impact, one day something positive happens back to you. Of course I'm not asking to you give with the pure mindset/intention that you want to get back something for sure. When I refer to giving, it could be anything, for example, you can give compliments, moral support, share knowledge and etc. 

One experience I want to share is that- there was this time where I was queuing up to buy McD ice-cream, the queue was pretty long... And everyone was in sort of a less-patient mode because who likes to wait right? Now think about this, imagine what we need to do is wait (while playing with our phones maybe), make order, pay then walk away while enjoying our desserts. But what about the person who is working? She must have been so exhausted with making ice-cream non stop! and the queue behind is not getting any shorter... So when it was my turn, so happened I saw that she wore really nice makeup (she is a young Malay girl). And I just couldn't help but complimented her. "Wow your makeup is really pretty, I really like it! And you have really pretty eyes." Almost instantly, I could see her face which was stressed up earlier changed and glowed up. Huge smile could be seen on her face. Blushing away, she then said thank you (very shyly haha!) But I knew at that moment, she really genuinely felt happy. Amidst a busy work day serving that many customers, who would have thought that she would receive a compliment like that. Well for me, I was just stating the fact, her makeup was really pretty and her eyes were really nice. But for her, it could something that made her day. 

When was the last time you gave something (could be tangible or intangible)? And I wonder if that move sparked any positive emotions in you?

May you know the meaning of the word happiness
May you always lead from the beating in your chest

Happiness, something that everyone is looking for. Some find it, some don't. There is no right or wrong because it's something that is so subjective. I myself is also constantly looking and appreciating it. People around me always ask me: "why are you always so energetic? why do you sound so active and positive all the time?" I don't really have an answer actually, it's just how I am. Have I already achieved happiness? Nooo la, where got such thing eh? 

My best answer if I think really hard now is that you must be able to count your blessings. If you keep comparing yourself with others, especially with people who have more possessions than you; then you will always see yourself lacking here and lacking there; how can you be happy with this mindset. The fact that you cannot make peace and accept yourself as who you are is a big factor why you cannot be happy.

Again, everyone's definition of happiness is different. I hope you keep searching for yours until you find it, then treasure it dearly.

May you be treated like an esteemed guest
May you get to rest, may you catch your breath